Connye Speaks On How She Knew

Wedding Anniversary Date: November 29, 1997

How she knew her husband was the one for her:

“I didn't KNOW that Kevin was my husband until about 15 seconds after we finished our 'I do's'.

I let out this rather untamed and totally unexpected squeal. It was like the pressure cooker was finally letting off...and I knew then it was a done deal. We are complete opposites in almost every way, but we understand (mostly)how it works. It's like a key and lock...or a window frame and glass. I knew that our spiritual paths were connected the first time he accompanied me on the piano. It was, and still is, like climbing onto a water-made vessel on a gorgeous blue, sky day and taking a ride in the breeze.

Marriage is like that at moments....but at some point the waters get rough, the winds start to whip you around and you lose your footing and stumble. Hang on and work to keep yourself where you are willing to shift. Flexibility will help keep things from breaking apart.”

What she loves about his mind: He has an extremely mathematical mind.

What she loves about his body: I love my husband's warm hands and his smile.

What she loves about his spirit: We don't behave or think nothing alike, but we share core values and ethics. Consequently, we have difficulty finding shared activities outside of the home that we can both enjoy and so simple things win: walks, theater excursions, community (church) service , youth performances and concerts on occasion. However, at the level of spirit, we are both giving souls--- sometimes to a fault, and share reverence for God, nature and music.

Connye's advice to single women about marriage:

“Going into marriage with the thoughts of 'getting out if it doesn't work', will almost assure you a prophecy fulfilled. Marriage doesn't work. YOU DO. Discovering a solid spiritual path that you can walk together is essential. Spiritual ideologies colliding can lead to conflicting values at the core of the relationship.”