Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Kristy Speaks On How She Knew

Wedding Anniversary Date: March 20, 2004

How she knew her husband was the one for her:

I was interning at a magazine and Roland came to visit for the summer. When I first met him, I thought, 'This guy is too serious.' At our first meeting, he advised me . 'If you did not come to work, you can go home...Yeah, that’s what I thought.' His version is a little different, but really how many ways can you say that differently and it sound any better? Anyway, we got over that first impression and continued to work together at the magazine.

While working there, we both decided to start looking for a car. Well, I was driving a 1995 Sky Blue Lincoln Continental (no air in summer and no heat in winter-LOL) and he was driving a Pinto...or something like that. One day he mentioned that he was going to start looking for a new car and I said something like, 'I need a new car myself.' And he asked me to go with him to the car dealership. So, I guess that was our first unofficial date: browsing the car lots.

We went out for the next few weekends, checking out cars and our friendship starting blossoming from there. Romantic? Not exactly, but we started talking on the phone more and really developed a great friendship. Shortly after that, he was preparing to go back to school in Ohio and we had to decide what was to become of our friendship. We decided to continue keeping in touch with one another to determine how we felt about each other after we were apart. Now, I would love to say that everything was awesome and we had no glitches along the way, but honestly, we were both figuring our relationship out. Neither one of us initially thought that we would get married. We actually both thought that we knew either who we were going to marry or what they would look like...and neither one of us fit that mold.

But the more we talked and visited one another, our plans changed and we decided to officially date. During that process, God showed us his desire for our relationship and we said, 'Yes.' We dated for three years, graduated college and got married in 2004. Looking back, we developed an awesome friendship that is a great benefit in our marriage. We have now been married for five years, have two kids (1 & 2 yrs old) and my husband is completing his last year of law school. I say all that to say, we all have plans of what our lives will be like after we get married; we think our knight is going to come and rescue us from our singleness, financial troubles and loneliness. But no matter whether married or single, God is the only source for peace. Marriage is great—with the right person at the right time!

What she loves about his mind: Roland is very smart and always interested in learning.

What she loves about his body: I love that he's fit and cares about physical fitness. And I love his smile.

What she loves about his spirit: He is a consistent, spirit-led man who desires for God to be glorified in His life .

Kristy's advice to single women about marriage:

“Life happens, looks change, finances have peaks and valleys and all of these can take place one after another or all at one time. So, it’s important to know that you’re getting married for the right reasons; to the right person God has for you. How do you know it’s the right person? God speaks. It might not be at the first date or at first sight, but God desires that we know His will. He will make it clear. Just believe in God's goodness and the performance of his Word.


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